I don’t want to sound corny, but YOU are seriously an awesome person with some amazingly unique attributes. Actually taking time to think about them will help you start seeing yourself as attractive.I mean, think about it! How many times have you met a person (guy or girl) who was very attractive, but once you got to know them and know the REAL them, they didn’t look so attractive after a while?

1. Who IS the Real You?

One of the BIGGEST ways to appear more attractive is being the real you around others. But that sounds cliche and frustrating doesn’t it? How do you be the real you?

One important thing you can do is to listen to the negative things you say about yourself in your head & out loud. We tell ourselves negative things like, “I’m awkward, “I’m weird,” “I’m stupid,” and because of this we assume OTHERS see us the same way. I’ve had the same problem and am currently working on getting rid of it myself!

Now once you find these negative thought patterns, I want you to stay conscious of them and REPLACE them with positive thoughts.

2. How to Love How You Look in Clothing

Say this with me, “I do NOT look bad in clothes, but SOME clothes don’t look good on me.”

Clothing looking bad on you is NOT your fault!

I don’t care what size you are, clothing can look VERY good on you. It’s all about understanding your body shape and knowing HOW to style your body shape.

There are so many awesome blog posts or Youtube tutorials on how to figure out your body shape and dress for it; so empower yourself and feel confident! ♥️ 

3. Be Attentive

When talking to people, don’t ignore them. I mean think about it; how many times have you felt frustrated when you could tell someone was completely zoning you out OR just waiting for you to get finished so they could say what they wanted to say?

So much of being attractive comes from your very actions and putting others first. And I don’t mean constantly sacrificing for other; I just mean having a mindset to make others feel the way YOU would want to feel. 

4. Happiness

I mean, how many times have you distanced yourself from a friend who became more negative over time? You tried to listen and offer solutions, but they wouldn’t take it. It’s honestly exhausting and frustrating and soon you don’t want to be around that person; they just don’t want to take the actions to make their life better and whenever you do talk, it’s ALL about them and their problems.

5. Can You Be Attractive but Not at the Same Time?

Here’s the thing: you could be the most attractive person around but still appear unattractive. Think about VERY attractive actors who play the role of very average people in films. Their clothing looks like it was quickly picked off a sales rack, their hair (and makeup if a woman) is nondescript, and they carry themselves in an unconfident way.

THEN compare that to how they look on the red carpet. Their hair and makeup is completely changed and their outfit is tailored and looks like they had great thought put into it.

6. This One Thing Will Also Make You Stand Out & Feel Different

Having a good posture can change how you look instantly. And you know what? When you have good posture, you end up sending messages to your brain that makes you feel more empowered and confident (I’m not joking!). So try practicing it this week and see how you feel!

You deserve to feel better. ♥️ 

7. Giving?!

The Chinese have this word called, “Guanxi” which basically means to make sure you’re having a good flow of giving between you and another person.

Being attractive isn’t just about wearing the right kind of makeup or clothing brands. A lot of it has to do with how you treat yourself and others.

So one of the best things you can do right now is to make yourself look and feel more attractive by giving yourself some self-love and loving others as well!